How to do it: I’m a cisgendered bi woman and my fantasies are about being a man with a female partner. Is this a kink? — Stoya

Many cis women fantasize about having a penis, being a man, or having sex with women with a body other than their own.

Your husband's "package" isn’t big enough to get inside me, let alone satisfaction.

You need not bring another live penis into your bedroom to experience some length and girth.

Dear How to Do It: Recently my boyfriend has been drinking a lot more than he usually does.

When he drinks, he gets sloppy, indignant, incoherent, and weird.

Seeing him like that turns me off so, so much, it’s hard to have sex with him in the days that follow.

How can you broach this topic without seeming judgmental?.

When he drinks heavily, he can count on not having sex for a few days .

Not everyone who gets drunk from time to time has a major issue.

You can’t make someone get help, but you also don't have to stay with someone who has revealed a side of himself that you find repulsive.