Here’s what to do if you’re trying to give your child a ‘secure’ attachment style

"Attachment styles" have the sheen of science, but underneath, it’s basically all vibes.

"Securely attached" kids will be socially confident and have a strong sense of self.

"Anxiously attached" adults are driven by fear of rejection and abandonment.

"avoidantly attached" among us have difficulty sharing feelings and trusting others.

As a laboratory experiment, the Strange Situation draws its authority from a yearlong observational study of mothers and their babies.

The Baltimore study is the “skyscraper of research and theoretical conclusions in attachment theory” is built.

The study was designed with assumptions about mothers and babies at its center.

The next time you worry if sending your baby to day care will doom him to a life of insecure attachment, remember that labels aren’t nearly the bulletproof science they sometimes seem.

The years from birth to age 3 , the time when attachment is ostensibly forming, are often incredibly hard ones for new parents.