Care and Feeding: Is Christmas defined by a tree? Here’s what you need to know

My husband and daughter have asthma and allergies and react to nearly every species of live tree used for Christmas .

My husband said he didn't see that being a problem, but that they would need to get an artificial tree instead of a real one.

His sister-in-law asked if we could start rotating it since our kids are a bit older now.

There’s never been any kind of gift-giving from extended family for those types of occasions.

We specifically told her she didn’t need to bring them gifts, but she said she enjoys doing it.

She bought each of my kids at least $100 worth of things, plus another large gift for them both to share.

As the oldest of four children, I frequently felt overlooked and that I was expected not to ask for help.

I assumed (incorrectly) it would be rectified with the birth of my second child.

Now that my explicit requests for help are being denied, I am struggling. How do I let go of my building anger and resentment?.