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My daughter has never wanted to have children and doesn't particularly like kids in general.

Her new husband has an 8-year-old daughter from a previous marriage.

She married a man she met online about a year and a half ago .

After the wedding, it was clear that Grace was a complete afterthought for Laura and her husband.

Teenagers being teenagers, they ignored me. I made it clear that Brian could either stay in the public areas of the house, or, if he did go into her room, the door stayed open to make sure nothing untoward happened.

Hayley has refused to speak to me since. Her father won't even let Brian visit at his place.

I'm not sure how to make it clear I won’t tolerate bigotry without coming across as an asshole.

My nephew, “Oswald,” is 16 and I am pretty disheartened by some of the obnoxious things he’s been saying in front of his younger cousins that are unchallenged by his parents.

I think your efforts up to now to keep Haley from being sexually active are pointless.