Dear Care and Feeding: My sister and her husband are spending tens of thousands of dollars a year on their 11-year-old nephew's sports. What should we do?

My nephew, 11 , is spending tens of thousands of dollars a year for his sports parents.

My sister and her husband are uniquely positioned to give them a dose of reality.

Mark played Rudy ’s chosen sport at a high-level Division I college on a full scholarship, then was drafted by a professional team.

Most of the time our 3-year-old daughter spends with us is one -on-one.

This makes parenting more difficult, and, frankly, it's stressful for our marriage.

The key piece to this vexing puzzle is to take your own disappointment, hurt feelings, and frustration out of it.

I named my son Angela after a dear friend who died shortly before his birth.

I asked him if he wanted to start going by Angelo , but he said he had chosen the name “ Kieran” I’m disappointed. I'm not going to give my son a hard time about this. But do you have any advice on how I can reframe this?.