My Husband is Terrified of Passing One of His, Um, “Small” Traits to Our Child. His Solution is Insane.

My husband has a very, very small penis, and insists we use donor sperm for conception.

He's not willing to select for a girl to skip this issue, because there's no way to know early in the process unless you’re doing IVF .

Dick size is not nearly as cut and dried as merely inheriting what your father has.

The way we do it is fine, but I keep longing for more.

It's hard to find her as attractive while knowing my fantasies would disgust her.

She's very sex-negative now, disdainful of polyamory and other “extreme” ways of having sex.

She might be OK if you were dating/having sex with others.

I’m trying to find more about this alternate experience of being male, not a male trying to appear as or act like a female.

I think what you describe does indeed qualify as good, old-fashioned cross-dressing.

Others might describe this as “transvestism,” a loaded and somewhat outdated term.