Care and Feeding: Can someone tell me how to talk to my kids about what’s happened?

Dear Care and Feeding : Don't hide your sadness and disappointment with your daughter's parents.

Don’t be afraid to share your fears or despair or panic with your kids.

Apologize for being “hostile” toward one’s child is just plain wrong.

Tell them how much they love each other.

Tell your children the world is (still) filled with good people, and that the work of making things better is not done.

Do your best to keep your kids’ lives, their day-to- day activities, and your family’s routines, exactly as they were.

If you haven’t yet taught your children anxiety-calming breathing techniques, now is the time.